A quote that put a knot in my throat

I follow John Piper, a well known author and pastor,  on twitter. He's not one of those people who tweets once an hour, but more like once every few days. When he says something, it's usually worth taking note; much like C.S. Lewis.

Anyway...

I read one of his tweets a while ago and it pretty much slapped me across the face. twice.

It was somewhere along the lines of, "If you're afraid of offending someone when you speak, nothing will ever come out of your mouth."

It's been a while since I've said anything, via Facebook, Twitter, on here, etc. The reason? Well to be honest I'm constantly fighting letting people's opinions run my life. And for a while I've been losing. I care about what people think about me. My thoughts, my music, my perspective, my life.  Although I don't think that's necessarily a bad thing, I've realized I care too much. Too much to the point where I no longer say or do or write anything because I'm afraid of how it's going to be perceived. Can I be honest with you? It's a miserable way to live. It really is.

Call it cliché, but I've come to the conclusion that no matter how hard I try to be cool/acceptable/trendy/hip, I'm always falling short in someone's opinion. And I think I now know why. They are dealing with exact same problem I am.

You see, God took the blindfold off and showed me a mirror. I'm always tempted to be negative and critical of others. You can ask my wife. My close friends. Call me a Debbie Downer because I have an eye for pointing out what's wrong in people, in life, and in circumstances. But my wife is the complete opposite. I think that's why I'm starting to see it in myself. What makes this whole thing ironic though is that I'm as fragile as thin glass when it comes to hearing criticism from someone else. Especially people I don't know. If there was a phobia for being afraid of hearing negative things about yourself, I would have it. Even constructive criticism is like taking a baseball bat to the gut. It hurts so bad that I try and avoid it at all costs, missing out on ways to improve. Sometimes I'll even break down in tears.

I now know that I tear others down, sometimes in harsh ways, in order to make myself feel better about myself. My sinfulness leads me believe that when I point out the flaws in another person (most of the time just opinons not facts), and magnify them so greatly, that somehow by doing this, I fool other people into focusing on how bad they are and not how bad I am.

How malicious the human's heart is.

So where does God fit into all of this? Allow me to try and describe to you how I see it in my mind.

I find myself in a room the size of a large living room. In it are people. All sorts of people. Big people. Small people. People I know. People I don't know. Angry people. Happy People.

They're all crowded in this room with me; facing me. All telling me things. Good things, bad things, unknown things, things left to my own interpretation, some are whispered, some yelled across the room. This chaos of verbiage is all going on at the same time; picture the chaos of the stock market happening in your living room.

God is also in this room.

But unfortunately, because I control the proximity of the people in this room, I've put God in the back corner; behind the people inches away from my face yelling things at me.

God's speaking to me too, competing for my attention behind these people, trying so hard to be heard; to get me to look at Him.

You see, the entire room is telling me what to change about myself; what they like and what they don't like.

God's no different. He's suggesting that I change certain things about myself too. But the way He presents these suggestions is totally different from the rest. He's not the loudest voice, He's the quietest.

But the choice is mine. I turn the volume of the voices up or down. I control who is where in the room. I'm left with the responsibility to re-arrange these people, to turn others down some, and to kick others out completely.

I call this room influence.

What is influencing you right now? Am I? What about the last website you were just on? What about this morning? This evening?

I've found that throughout my day, I will be inviting things (or people) into my room of influence; sometimes not even realizing I sent out an invitation. Some of the faces in my room have been there for years, others I will only see for a day.

Who, or what, is in your room?

Celebrities? Television? Radio? Friends? Money? Culture? God?

For me, I had to kick some people out, turn others down, and bring God in a little closer.

Something that came along with God coming in a little closer, was the reminder of how short this life is. In it, are the lives of others that are just as short, and many of them in very similar rooms. Rooms filled with just as much, if not more people than were in mine. Leaving you, just like me, feeling inadequate, or hurting. But God might not be in your room. Maybe the lights have gone out, leaving you completely clueless to what's influencing you.

My hope and prayer is that if you're like me, prone to retreat and hide when facing criticism or inadequacy, and calling out what is wrong with the rest of the world, that you'll find courage and strength to be who God made you to be, but also be open to letting God mold and change you. Learn and follow the perspective of Jesus through the Bible, allow God to change how you're mind works. Not only will it be freeing, but it will allow you to help others as well.

Sincerely,

René

People watching with a pair of chopsticks

Sure at first glance it doesn't seem like much, but what really is it about a place that makes it a happy place?

As I sat in the restaurant that wasn't any bigger than most living rooms, I was surprised to catch myself smiling; and for no apparent reason either. I was there. At that very moment in time, I was certain that I was being present. In every way, shape, and form, I was letting loose of my senses and they were soaking it all in. Not only did I score a major deal for an ample plate of food for under $5.00, but I was submerged in the environment. To my left I could feel the sun's ray's on my arm, complimented by laughter of a large family who seemed to communicate with smiles. Behind me I had the door opening and closing as patrons came and went. And to my right I had some good friends talking to, and about, the waitress whom one of them was trying to get the phone number from. We all laughed at him and rolled our eyes. This was once of those places where there wasn't a type of person. There were only people. A lot of people in fact, squeezed into a tiny little space. When the blushing waitress brought us our food, I began to look around. As I scanned, I saw an elderly couple saying nothing. It was almost as if their smiles were frozen in time. They just looked into each other's eyes. The warmth radiated from their table and there was no doubt in my mind that they were in love. Love shows. It sticks out like the flame of a candle, perfectly positioned on a table when no other table in the restaurant has one. Restaurants should offer you more than just a full stomach; and sometimes it isn't even the stuff on the menu. It's times like these that seem to give $5.00 so much more value.

Hello Tacoma

So last night we all went to an awesome church service called City Central. Flat out one of the best services I've been to in a long time.

After that the friends we were visiting decided to go to Sonic.

After driving around for an hour, we finally arrived, only to realize we were given the wrong directions. Everyone had already eaten and Ryan had been with them. It was more of a Hey guys, bye guys kind of thing.

Rudy Mena is probably one of my favorite people in the whole world. We can stay up all night talking about the things in life you wouldn't really talk about otherwise. Then you go to bed feeling good and the road you're on isn't so bad after all. We're going to Seattle today/tonight. I can't wait.

Touring Full band!!

First official day of tour.

I've been in an SUV for 13+ hours with 5 amazing people. What have I learned so far?

1. Only half of California is really the "California" we all picture.

2. Daft Punk is awesome to car-dance to.

3. "We're not in Kansas anymore" can be applied to any state.

4. Chevron Gas stations are the place to "kick-it" at 1:30 am in Cottage Grove, OR.

5. Everyone and their mom loves "The Office"

6. I still can't get into "The Office."

Warped tour is tomorrow.

Im excited to see Underoath.

Im ready for Adventure.

Rock-n-water

Tomorrow I embark on my trip with the First Presbyterians high school youth group.

We're going to Rock-N-Water. A camp up near the American River. We're going white water rafting. =)

The last time I went, I was actually in the youth group. That was about 5 years ago.

Wow Im old..

To be honest It caught me off-guard.

Something that would fall under the "Random" Category in my book.

Only because it's random and foreign to my thoughts. All of my thoughts have been consumed by this next coming month. Going on tour, planning parts of it still, getting ready in general. The "Work" list never ceases to end. But thats life right?

Im always surprised as to how God displays His perfect timing, in the middle of my worst. Right when I thought the spring on the scale was going to explode under so much weight, Im sitting in Day 1 (First Pres.'s High School Sunday morning service) and The Rock-N-Water ad comes up. The revelation hit me that I was going to that. Immediately, like a pack of wolves, my thoughts of tour, lists, and business, jumped the thought of me escaping for while. You don't have time for that!!, When will you get the things you need to get done if you go to that?, It's a waste of time-You don't have any!, What will happen if you don't get the things done?

My whole life I've been afraid of failure, and this is a time where being afraid of failure, almost made me fail.

I asked for help. and I heard Hear it is René. An Escape. A chance to focus only on me. To recharge. But..

there is one condition, You have to trust me and give this huge weight to me.

I've been so exhausted that Im gladly doing just that. Trying at least...

With that, I'm eagerly looking forward to this week. A week in another world, so distant from my cell phone, computer, contacts, etc.. It's exactly what I need.

Jesus, You've been right this whole time...Thank you.

Welcome Home.

Today I found out that one of my younger cousins, whom I haven't seen in about 3 years, was in town. He had actually been in town for 2 weeks. For some reason my family members didn't have a number to give him that would put him through to me. My aunt finally called me today telling me to call him. I did. He moved with his family across the country about 6-7 years ago. We haven't kept in touch too well. We had a lot of catching up to do.

Isn't it crazy how someone can be so different from the person who's lived in your memories? Maybe not in good or bad way, but simply in a different way. Grown up is a phrase that comes to mind. But what do people grow to be? adults? Well then what's an adult? A full time worker who puts in 40-60 hours in the office, A graduate from College, a single mom, an 18 year old who's been kicked out of his house? I guess finances have a lot to being grown up huh? Being able to support yourself. Paying for everything. Not asking or depending on anyone else for money. Maybe taking responsibility for everything we should be responsible for? But there is much, much more to growing up then simply becoming an adult.

The first thing I noticed when he got in the car were the types of questions he would ask. He didn't ask the generic, easy questions. His interests were much deeper, and more real. A genuine interest. "What do you do in your spare time?", "What do you want to be when you grow up?", "Why are you and brother so close?" ...When my brother and I never speak..."

Questions that let you know that the one asking is asking because he or she seeks something. Something to learn, something to take and apply to his own life. It's always interesting to find someone who in a lot of ways reminds you of yourself, and yet, is nothing like you at all. We all like to think people are put in our path for one reason or another. I think that's a good reminder to keep close by.

Hanging out with The New Divide

So The New Divide (myspace.com/thenewdivide) Came down to hang out and take some promos (myspace.com/anthropologyimages) and it was quite the night. Not only did we take pictures, we created pieces of timeless art along with timeless memories. Aaron was doing backflips while Jess was shooting him; getting some killer shots, Doug tried getting his very cool tattoo in as many shots as possible, and Andy was just being himself.

We went to Denny's afterwards and found out you could feed a whole family at Denny's for $6.

Andy got the create your own slam and got "4 pancakes."

We got the order in, and out comes 5 plates with 2 pancakes on each of them. It was a funny picture. Such a fun night. Now we're all on our computers while some of are starting to fall asleep. Great night.